The first hour (8pm – 9pm) tonight the topic was hoarding.

First guest for hoarding: Dr. Monica Williams

Monnica Williams, Ph.D. is clinical psychologist who treats adults and families with OCD, PTSD, and other anxiety disorders. She is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Louisville, where she serves as the Associate Director of the Center for Mental Health Disparities.  She completed her undergraduate studies at MIT and UCLA, then received her doctorate in clinical psychology from the University of Virginia. Dr. Williams was at the University of Pennsylvania’s Department of Psychiatry for four years, prior to arriving in Louisville last July.

Her discussion questions:

1. How common is hoarding?

2. Is hoarding a mental disorder?

3. Are hoarders just lazy?

4. Can someone be a secret hoarder?

5. Do all hoarders have messy houses?

6. What type of items to people typically hoard?

7. Why can’t hoarders let go of their stuff? Even if it’s broken or non-functional/of no use…

8. Can hoarding be genetic?

9. Can hoarding be cured?

10. How does hoarding affect relationships?

11. Is hoarding dangerous?

12. What is the most severe case of hoarding you have ever seen?

13. Can medication help hoarding?

14. How do you treat hoarding?

15. What are some good resources for hoarders?

Second guest for hoarding: Dr. Jeff Romer

Dr. Romer has been the clinical director for Lutheran Family Services since 1992.  He is an Approved Supervisor and Fellow in the American Assoc for Marriage and Family Therapy, a Nationally Certified Psychoanalyst with the NAAP, and member in the American Association of Pastoral Counselors.  He currently also serves as an adjunct assistant professor of marriage and family therapy for Webster University, and as adjunct faculty clinical supervisor at the Louisville Presbyterian Theological Seminary.

His discussion questions:

1. How did you get into treating people who suffer from “hoarding?”

2. How do you understand and define “hoarding?”

3. What does research say about hoarding that you are aware of?

4. What types of cases have you seen?

5. How do you typically treat people who present with “hoarding” as a problem?

6. How successful is treatment in helping those who hoard?

8. What is the worst case of hoarding, if any, that you have seen or heard of?

9.  What do you advise people to do, when they call about a family member?

10. How can people contact you if they want a consultation or assessment?



Second Hour (9pm – 10pm) the topic was couples counseling.

Dr. Jesse Owen is a faculty member in the Counseling Psychology Program at the University of Louisville. His research and clinical practice focus on romantic relationships and couple therapy. Recently, Jesse and his colleagues have been examining commitment in couples’ lives

His discussion questions:

1. After all of these years, with thousands of studies on what makes relationships work, what do we know about love?

2. We hear a lot about divorce today – what trends are we seeing in divorce rates and factors associated with divorce?

3. How does your work on commitment help us understand love?

4. What can couples do to enhance their devotion to each other?

5. You have been talking about commitment uncertainty – could you say more about this?

6. How does communication relate to love?

7. What should couples look for when it comes to making big steps in relationships?

8. How does acceptance help increase love in relationships?

9. What happens when a partner does not accept an aspect of their partner?

10. V-day is around the corner any advice for couples listening?

Second Guest: Kelely Quirk

Kelley Quirk is a doctoral student in the Counseling Psychology doctoral program at the University of Louisville. Kelley earned her Masters degree in counseling at Central Michigan University and has since focused her efforts on doing research and therapy with couples.

Her discussion questions:

1. Does couples therapy really work?

2. We see couples therapy on TV and in movies, but what does it really look like?

3. What do you look for in a couple to know whether they are headed for success in therapy or not?

4. What are relationship danger signs and how do you see them in couples therapy?

5. How does a couple know whether they should come to therapy or not?

6. What do you do as a therapist if one partner wants to work on the relationship in therapy and one wants to get out?

7. How do therapist values influence the course of couples therapy?

8. What kinds of issues do couples come to therapy for?

Last we had a couple on the topic on couples counseling: George and Cassie Soete

George and Cassie Soete have been married for 47 yrs.  They have 6 grown children and 9 Grandchildren.The Soetes began mentoring troubled couples on their own for 10 yrs, and now serve as Lay-Coordinators in the Marriage Mentorig Ministry at Southeast Christian Church in Louisville, KY for the past 13 yrs.   They have spoken at numeros retreats and conferences.Their passion for helping marriages is an outreach from their own troubled marriage 25 yrs ago.

Their discussion questions:

1.   How did you get involved in Marriage Mentoring?

2.   What’s the need for Marriage Mentoring?

3.   Are there any requirements for becoming Marriage Mentors?

4.   Could you describe the status of Marriage Mentoring at your church?

5.   What are some of the root causes of marriages failing?

6.   How long and how often do you work with couples?

7.   How do you deal with failure in the couples you mentor?

8.   How do you use your personal experience with Marriage Mentoring to help others?

9.   What would you say is the original  problem in your own marriage?

10.   Did you have any marriage counseling to help you reconcile?

11.   How do you think the children are affected by marital difficulties or divorce?

12.   Can you tell in your mentoring if a couple will “make it” or not?

13.   What’s your success rate in your mentoring?

14.  Can you pin point what went wrong in your own marriage?

15.   Does Pornography have an effect on the marriages today?

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